Getting Some Things Off My Chest

Tragically the world has been witness to yet another horrific massacre in the USA. This time precious young children with their lives still ahead of them were the innocent victims. 

What is being said is the murder was mentally ill, which would seem extremely feasible as no one in their right mind would murder innocent children. The internet is jumping with debates and blog posts about mental illness and one woman in particular wrote about her struggles with a mentally ill son who she lives in fear of. I read this woman´s blog and apparently the father was also mentally ill. Now a lot of people will disagree with me and what I´m about to say but my immediate thought when I read this was, if I had two dogs I was going to breed and one was mentally ill, I wouldn´t breed that dog because the risk of getting a puppy who would also be mentally ill would be 50%! So I wonder WHY do humans think they have a God given right to reproduce regardless of whether they have a trait, such as mental illness, which could be passed on? 

The other debate which is raging on the net is the 2nd Amendment and both sides are equally passionate about their stand. My question here is, why do people fight so hard to keep an amendment that was created 200 years ago when society has drastically changed from that time? What was reasonable, necessary, and practical then isn´t now. Times have changed and we´ve accepted all the changes but cling so desperately to something created hundreds of years ago. 

My personal feeling is that no one outside of law enforcement need have guns. Guns have one purpose and that is to kill or injure. People say they keep them as protection. What are they protecting themselves from? Others who have guns who could possibly be mentally ill because one of their parents was mentally ill? Guns are glorified in today´s society....

There is no respect and ANYONE can get their hands on them....even children. 

And while I´m sticking my neck out there and probably making a whole bunch of people angry with me and my humble opinions, I need to say that I also think the way society is going is another reason our children are in danger. Not that Mom needs to stay home with children, but our society has become so obsessed with things that BOTH parents have to work in order to afford the THINGS that everyone has and children are being left in the care of strangers at very very early ages. 

When I was a daycare Mom in America I watched a baby who was 3 months old! I was with her more then her own mother and the trend is coming to Norway, babies as young as 8 months old are finding their way to the daycares and are there for long hours every day. At a time when small children need stability and a sturdy foundation in life they are being dragged to daycare so Mom and Dad can work and have money to have things. 

The job of raising healthy happy children has been passed on to strangers and not valued like it once was. Why is it such an unpopular thought to have one parent stay at home and get the kids off too a great start in life? Why can´t THINGS be set aside and the more important THINGS such as happy, stabile, well adjusted children be more important? I´m sure my thoughts seem very out dated and unrealistic in today´s society but it´s a thought that strikes me every time I hear about a child involved in a killing or torture or other negative situation or a child with other issues. Where are the parents? 

 We were really poor when our kids were little. I remember so many times crying because we didn´t have money for food all the time, I couldn´t buy my kids all the things I wanted too, we struggled and yet I stayed home with the kids pretty much the entire time until Sarah was around 12 years of age. I did do some small jobs every now and then sporadically through the years but never anything long term and my kids always knew I was there. I would do it all over again if I had too because I think it was the best investment I could have made in my kids- being there for them. 

I don´t expect anyone to agree with me, I´m not looking for a pat on the back for the decisions I made in my life, I am not looking for anything other then to get some of these thoughts off my chest and what better place to do that then in my own little corner of cyberspace- my blog!   I also respect that what worked for me, what was right for me, isn´t right for everyone. I understand and respect that some people don´t have the option of having one parent stay home because they are the only parent at home or what have you, I understand there are exceptions to everything and I respect completely the right to disagree. We don´t have to agree on everything- who would want that?  I´m simply saying in general...we´re moving away from the things that matter and putting too much value on things that won´t mean anything to any of us years from now. Things that won´t make us better people, won´t help us to live happy, healthy, productive lives....we´ve lost sight of what is really important...I truly believe that and I believe also that people don´t want to hear this. They want to hear whatever will allow them to keep doing what they are doing without guilt....and it´s sad but reality and I´m dealing with it...the best I can...

Until next time my friends...(if you still consider me a friend after my little hissy fit here)